Friend’s and friendships


Having friends is just next to have treasure with you. Friends are everthing.
#They can be like parents to guide you, wishes good to come to you (so you can party them),
# they can be like brothers/sisters to fight with you,share things, share thoughts,
# they can be like your mentor to guide you ways for better results,
# they can be like relatives who can comment and congratulate for what you are doing,
# they can be like society ready appreciate for good within and even criticize  for your faults ,
# they can be your crowd to cheer you up,
# a true friend in life will always motivate you, help you, cheer you up, draw positivity within you, may even abuse for your mistakes , and so on and on….

Its all part of Love of a friend, Thanks to the Creator to give a relation of Friends in life.

~Fatema Vanak

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An excellent write up to read.
There was once a man who got lost in the desert. The water in his flask ran out two days ago, and he was on his last legs. He knew that if he didn’t get some water soon, he would surely perish. The man saw a shack ahead of him. He thought it might be a mirage or hallucination, but having no other option, he moved toward it. As he got closer he realized it was quite real, so he dragged his weary body to the door with the last of his strength.

  The shack was not occupied and seemed like it had been abandoned for quite some time. The man gained entrance, hoping against hope that he might find water inside.

  His heart skipped a beat when he saw what was in the shack: a water pump..It had a pipe going down through the floor, perhaps tapping a source of water deep under-ground.

  He began working the pump, but no water came out. He kept at it and still nothing happened. Finally he gave up from exhaustion and frustration. He threw up his hands in despair. It looked as if he was going to die after all.

  Then the man noticed a bottle in one corner of the shack. It was filled with water and corked up to prevent evaporation.

  He uncorked the bottle and was about to gulp down the sweet life-giving water when he noticed a piece of paper attached to it. Handwriting on the paper read: “Use this water to start the pump. Don’t forget to fill the bottle when you’re done.”

  He had a dilemma. He could follow the instruction and pour the water into the pump, or he could ignore it and just drink the water.

  What to do? If he let the water go into the pump, what assurance did he have that it would work? What if the pump malfunctioned? What if the pipe had a leak? What if the underground reservoir had long dried up?

  But then… maybe the instruction was correct. Should he risk it? If it turned out to be false, he would be throwing away the last water he would ever see.

  Hands trembling, he poured the water into the pump. Then he closed his eyes, said a prayer, and started working the pump.

  He heard a gurgling sound, and then water came gushing out, more than he could possibly use. He luxuriated in the cool and refreshing stream. He was going to live!

  After drinking his fill and feeling much better, he looked around the shack. He found a pencil and a map of the region. The map showed that he was still far away from civilization, but at least now he knew where he was and which direction to go.

  He filled his flask for the journey ahead. He also filled the bottle and put the cork back in. Before leaving the shack, he added his own writing below the instruction: “Believe me, it works!”

  This story is all about life. It teaches us that we must give before we can receive abundantly. More importantly, it also teaches that faith plays an important role in giving. The man did not know if his action would be rewarded, but he proceeded regardless. Without knowing what to expect, he made a leap of faith.

  Water in this story represents the good things in life. Something that brings a smile to your face. It can be  intangible ilm or it can represent money, love, friendship, happiness, respect, or any number of other things you value. Whatever it is that you would like to get out of life, that’s water.

  The water pump represents the workings of the karmic mechanism. Give it some water to work with, and it will return far more than you put in. This mechanism traces a great circle, an unbroken path that eventually comes back  to its point of origin. The energy of this circulation gathers power as it moves along, so that when it finally returns, it is greatly amplified.

    Perhaps you have done a good deed that no one knows about, so you assume there will not be an effect associated with this particular cause. In reality, you have but initiated the karmic mechanism in the spiritual realm. You cannot see it, but it is there all the same, and it begins gathering energy and seeking its way back to you immediately.

  In general, whatever goodness you want from life, give it to others first. Give it cheerfully and willingly, without calculating your gain. Initiate the circular exchange and relax in the certain knowledge that no one ever gets shortchanged. Eventually, it WILL come back to you.

Think of planting flower seeds in a garden as a metaphor for the karmic mechanism. Each seed you plant is a process you have set into motion. You understand the principles that govern the growth of plants and you know the soil is fertile, so you know that you will see results in the fullness of time. What you do not know is exactly when or how the flowers will bloom, and that’s perfectly fine.

The only thing we need is the courage to take charge and jump start the water pump.

Believe me, it works!

~Fatema Vanak

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What you say is not actually the truth..

Did you ever lie to someone, some day in your life?? What you say is actually a truth all times???
I think all will agree to me. At some or other point in small or large scale we lie just to run out of the situations, to get treated immediately for sometime and enjoy. Like the medicines (i am not against it), they cure us for sometime but does’nt end our problems.

Yes i am a liar at many situations in my life just to be cured at that moment, rest will be seen later.later i build more leaves on that tree of false.The chain keeps on increasing till it finally starts hurting you from i have come to that point. I am not ashamed in accepting it.As i know i may be hurting someone , somewhere so i just take a chance to apologize to all whom i may have hurt by my sentences, knowing or unknowingly.
We actually hit like and upvote quotes that say true facts of life or some general facts but will remain same even after knowing the facts. We keep repeating what we should not and end up in misery.
Yeah!! going with the truth all the times will not be digestible to our systems Now, we are addicted in keeping things confidential to our circles. All don’t deserve to know.Its OK to serve dish of truth with pinch of untruthful creamy topping and keep moving on. It becomes necessary to keep changing with the change of life. to give good we take it as a support, to actually be nice at others heart.

You cannot predict the heart , you can read the mind through eyes or other stuffs but not heart!!
Untruthful words cover the eyes and mind of other people very easily.i bet they will not go into your details of truth. To the proposal of i love you , i love you too, is just enough.Noone cares about the details of truth.
but as i said we are addicted to it. So just accept the new truth that noone is Truthful. nooone is sinner,all are liars!!!

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Love in different way


Read the story below to link the emotions of Love in a different way.

Teacher : A cruise ship met with an accident at sea, on the ship was a pair of couple, after having made their way to the lifeboat, they realized that there was only space for one person left.

At this moment, the man pushed the woman behind him and jumped onto the lifeboat himself.

The lady stood on the sinking ship and shouted one sentence to her husband.

The teacher stopped and asked, “What do you think she shouted?”

Most of the students excitedly answered, “I hate you! I was blind!”

Now, the teacher noticed a boy who was silent throughout, she got him to answer and he replied, “Teacher, I believe she would have shouted – Take care of our child!”

The teacher was surprised, asking “Have you heard this story before?”

The boy shook his head, “Nope, but that was what my mum told my dad before she died to disease”.

The teacher lamented, “The answer is right”.

The cruise sunk, the man went home and brought up their daughter single-handedly.

Many years later after the death of the man, their daughter found his diary while tidying his belongings.

It turns out that when parents went onto the cruise ship, the mother was already diagnosed with a terminal illness.
At the critical moment, the father rushed to the only chance of survival.

He wrote in his diary, “How I wished to sink to the bottom of the ocean with you, but for the sake of our daughter, I can only let you lie forever below the sea alone”.

The story is finished, the class was silent.

The teacher knows that the student has understood the moral of the story, that of the good and the evil in the world, there are many complications behind them which are hard to understand.

Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first.

Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.

Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.

Those who apologizes first after a fight, do so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them.

Those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you any thing but because they see you as a true friend.

Those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because you are in their heart.

One day, all of us will get  separated  from each other; we will miss our conversations of everything & nothing; the dreams that we had. Days will pass by, months, years, until this contact becomes rare… One day our children will see our pictures and ask ‘Who are these people?’ And we will smile with invisible tears  because a heart is touched with a strong word and you will say: ‘IT WAS THEM THAT I HAD THE BEST DAYS OF MY LIFE WITH’. Send this to all your friends that you will never forget.
Thank you for making me smile for sometime in my life…:)

~Fatema Vanak

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Not Packed as expected ??


Sometime we don’t understand what world has to offer us. Our ability to think fades when we see what we are not expecting.
Following story will tell you same.

A young man was getting ready to graduate from college.
For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealers showroom, and knowing his father could well afford it, he told him that was all he wanted.
As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited signs that his
father had purchased the car. Finally, on the morning of his graduation, his father called him into his private study, told him how proud he was to have such a fine son, and how much he loved him. He handed him a beautifully wrapped gift box.
Curious but somewhat disappointed the young man opened the box and
found a lovely, leather-bound Quran, with his name embossed in gold.
Angrily, he raised his voice to his father and said, “With all your money you give me a Quran?” He stormed out of the house, leaving the Qur’an behind.

Many years passed and the young man was very successful in business. He had a beautiful home and wonderful family, but realized his father was very old. He thought perhaps he should go to him. He had not seen him since that graduation day.
But before he could make arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had passed away and willed all of his possessions to
him. He needed to come home immediately and take care of things. When he arrived at his father’s house, sadness and regret filled his heart.
He began to search through his father’s important documents and saw the Qur’an, new just as he had left it years ago.
With tears, he opened the Qur’an and began to turn the pages. As he opened the Qur’an a car key dropped from the back of the Qur’an. It had a tag with the dealers name, the same dealer who had the sports car he had desired.
On the tag was the date of his graduation and the words…
How many times do we miss Allah’s Blessings because they are not packaged as we expected?
You hardly try to understand GOD’s will.

~Fatema Vanak

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Fetch time for Love


You are mature. You know everything but there is a human limit, beyond which you cannot tolerate. You know that they love you,wants you smile.
BUT at end of day one is thirsty for love. You should fetch some time for one you love and really care. Why can’t you spend time and make them feel special. You know you love them, but its not enough!!!  You should express that feeling so it reaches your connecting heart.
Some relationships break not because they don’t love eachother  but because they don’t fetch time for love. Work is important but not at cost of love. Both should be balanced.
Love should be expressed, merly some words can make you smile and make your day. Say aloud  your loved one that i love you and stay with me.
Few words and problems solved.

~Fatema Vanak

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Love to give, not take..

You’re hurt by only those whom you Love. A small act of them annoys you,hurts you. Someone who is indifferent,doesn’t smile at you,it doesn’t bother you so much. But someone whom you Love, they don’t smile, or they didn’t give enough attention to you ,you get hurt.
Then you go,” ohhhh,ohhh,ohh.” Your mind goes like that.All complaints it takes and stores up and creates an illusion, “i am bad.”Either you blame yourself or you blame other person.So either you are in misery or you make that other person miserable and guilty and all this stuff.
This is too common.But then there is another stage.

When love matures,it becomes surrender. Surrender is a divine Love,Mature Love. “What is it that you want? Let me be useful to you.Let me be like a tree,and you come and have shade under me. I am here to give you joy and happiness. And in your happiness, i find happiness. “That is surrender. And surrender is the most beautiful thing that can happen to a human being.
And the moment that surrender has happened in you, you have reached the other shore. And in that state,there is so much fulfillment. That is prosperity

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